Changing and improving things

Push vs Pull

Often Pull is more effective that push. Show people what is possible and leading by example can bring people along in a way that push cannot.

On the other hand push is necessary sometimes also.

Think about the 2 and make a deliberate choice.

(Thanks Jean for this Thoughts)

What’s it all about?

Job’s
People
Change
EQ
India
Economics

What’s it all about?

Free Trade
Influenza
Technology
Cost
Substance Farming
Change - Relentless

What’s it all about?

Genetic Engineering
Job’s
Bombs
Smarts
Afghanistan
Engineering

What’s it all about?

Chaos
War
Games
Cheating
Investment
Future

What’s it all about?

Piece
Workers
Strife
Aluminum
Trust
Fraud

What’s it all about?

Food
Froyd
Zero sum
Geography
Value


What’s it all about?

Nano-bots
G7
Energy
Insurance


What’s it all about?

Our Deepest Fear

Our Deepest Fear by Nelson Mandela

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There is nothing enlightening about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us;
it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

A Sunday on La Grande Jatte

by Seurat, Georges (French, 1859-1891)

What is the picture of? The scene on a sunny day of Paris life, all of Paris life. Who is the child (with Parent?) in the middle looking out?

Notice:

• The light on the grass
• The monkey and the woman fishing -signs of anyother meaning and the La grande Jatte afterdark
  
• The only part of the painting that is not covered in pots or dashes - the white child in the middle of the picture. Giving great impact.
  
• The upright statue like figures frozen
• The shadows don't match the trees
  

http://www.artic.edu/artexplorer/search.php?q=grande%20jatte&tab=1&just=1

Push

She said I don't know if I've ever been good enough
I'm a little bit rusty, and I think my head is caving in
And I don't know if I've ever been really loved
By hand that's touched me, well I feel like something's gonna give
And I'm a little bit angry, well

This ain't over, no not here, not while I still need you around
You don't owe me, we might change
Yeah we just might feel good

(Chorus)
I wanna push you around, well I will, well I will
I wanna push you down, well I will, well I will
I wanna take you for granted, I wanna take you for granted, yeah I will, I will

Well I will

She said I don't know why you ever would lie to me
Like I'm a little untrusting when I think that the truth is gonna hurt ya
And I don't know why you couldn't just stay with me
You couldn't stand to be near me
When my face don't seem to want to shine
'cuz It's a little bit dirty well

Don't just stand there, say nice things to me
I've been cheated I've been wronged you,
And you don't know me, I can't change
I won't do anything at all

(Chorus)
I wanna push you around, well I will, well I will
I wanna push you down, well I will, well I will
I wanna take you for granted, I wanna take you for granted, yeah I will, I will

Oh but don't bowl me over
Just wait a minute well it kinda fell apart, things get so crazy, crazy
Don't rush this baby, don't rush this Baby, baby

(Chorus)
I wanna push you around, well I will, well I will
I wanna push you down, well I will, well I will
I wanna take you for granted, yeah, yeah, yeah
I wanna take you, take you, yeah, well I will, I will, I will, I will
I will, I will, I will, Yeah, yeah, push you around,
I'll drag you down, I wanna push you around
Well I will

5 Thousand times

Missing in action
Gone, Ended, no coming back, no wishing it back, no fixing it, gone, done

DIED

Innocence's didn't help. The chemisty was relentless, ordered and inevitable.

DIED

What is life that it can be gone in a moment?
She does not live on in our memories, we just remember.

AND SHE IS DIED

I have spread my dreams beneath your feet so please tread carefully as you are treading on my dreams

Henry David Thoreau

Thought is the sculptor who can create the person you want to be.

Henry David Thoreau

Hinduism

Prominent themes in Hinduism include:

• Dharma - ethics and duties - underlying order in Nature and behaviour that is consistant
• Samsāra - rebirth
• Karma - right action -The sum of all that one has done, is doing and will do
• Moksha - liberation or release from the cycle of samsara or rebirth. Transcendence not salvation in the christian sense

Day to Day life

Sitting in the waiting waiting room room
Time stands still. Still
Signs slapped to the wall with the kind of permanence that should be reserved a cure
The new downtown clinic is now open. Open. motionless the signs stand still
Someone has give the fish a bus transfer. Where did they want the fish going to go while waiting?

Does the nurse notice the fish?
DO NOT TOUCH THE FISH TANK
Boy that is tempting; calling me.
How often does the employee look at the fish? How often do the fish look back?
Gulping, gulping, gulping.

I am lost in a Turkish village and the destiny of 2 small boys
Nico and Abdul explore there surroundings and dream of the beautiful Philothei.
Although I have never seen Philothei, her magical eyes follow me.
Eyes level urine bottles with surprising shades return me, waiting
Privacy means not seeing you put the bottle on the open tray and the colours are lost.

Everywhere signs, stained and chipped walls, chairs; old, and ill fitting
The sick people together, if you aren't sick when you arrive you will be
The eastern European clerk in the small file filled office. IT is still a pronoun here.
Doctors that are not that busy. Why not when there are so many sick.
The old man, face cut by age is still in the country of his birth, proud and pitiful and past
Here where time stands still for everyone waiting waiting

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A winters tale

Imagine the warm sun on the beach and beautiful ocean going off forever.
Reading and relaxing on the strip with a great book, a coffee, or friends.
Practicing, participating, pontificating, pleasing, providing purposefully.
Sunday pork roast for the family and having people round for a big Sunday lunch.
Driving in a convertible down leafy side streets, with bright coloured shirts on in the midday haze.
Tending the corner, listening to water fountain time pass.
Eyes closed, you can here the ocean and the breeze rustling thought the eucalyptus trees.

What was U2 called before it was U2?

U1 or me2

Today Tripe, tomorrow?

Today I tripped on some tripe
and now I am falling
all not round is bright
and the demons are calling
Today I tripped on some tripe

It is hard not to treat tripe as tripe,
initially found drawing
for the world as it might
be smaller and smaller, sprawling
It is hard not to treat tripe as tripe

Who am I that I would treat this tripe
What am I to be appalling
What do I have to gripe
about, who am I blaming
Only me, only me, only me, tripe

Blue Eyes Brown Eyes. what does this mean for us?

January 15, 1929 Martin Luther King was born, he died April 4, 1968.

When, on April 5 1968, A person in Jane Elliotts class at junior school wanted to know why he was killed. She wanted her class to understand why Martin Luther King was killed .... the strangest things began....

A simple separation of the class by eye colour and in 15 minutes personalities changed, at lunch a fight broke out between a blued and browned eyed kid. The blued kids came up with ways to punich the browned eyed. The performance starts to change. Kids are now not performing as well or are performing better depending on what we are told them about what it means to be brown or blue eyed.

The keaness to pick on specific examples and translate the whole group. Speed with which perpsectives are changes. The use of the arguement to suggest that that is meaning full. ie blue eyed people that argue are proving that blue eyed people are argumentative and uncooporative.

And then there are the adults reactions.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/divided/

• Who are we?
• How much do we really know?
• What do we think?
• Do we need a guide to help us how are feeling and fears into perspective and check (an inner light perhaps if not a God)?
• This is so much more than just descrimination, it is about how we define ourselves and how we interact with people and how are brains actually work.
• Is this how terrorists happen?
  
• Do we really need to be protected from our selved like this?
• Who is in control really?
• What is freedom if this is possible?
• Leadership is everything every day perhaps
  

EQ - Top 10 Suggestions

Top Ten Suggestions

First seek to understand, then to be understood.

1. Label your feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.	"I feel impatient." vs "This is ridiculous." "I feel hurt and bitter". vs. "You are an insensitive jerk." "I feel afraid." vs. "You are driving like a idiot."
2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.	Thoughts: I feel like...& I feel as if.... & I feel that Feelings: I feel: (feeling word)
3. Take more responsibility for your feelings.	"I feel jealous." vs. "You are making me jealous."
4. Use your feelings to help them make decisions.	"How will I feel if I do this?" "How will I feel if I don't"
5. Show respect for other people's feelings.	Ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How will you feel if I don't."
6. Feel energized, not angry.	Use what others call "anger" to help feel energized to take productive action.
7. Validate other people's feelings.	Show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people's feelings.
8. Practice getting a positive value from their your emotions.	Ask yourself: "How do I feel?" and "What would help me feel better?" Ask others "How do you feel?" and "What would help you feel better?"
9. Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others.	Instead, try to just listen with empathy and non-judgmentally.
10. Avoid people who invalidate you.	While this is not always possible, at least try to spend less time with them, or give them psychological power over you.

William James

William James said: I have no doubt whatever that most people live, whether physically, intellectually, or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness... much like a man who, out of his whole body organism, should get into the habit of using and moving only his little finger... We all have reservoirs of life to draw upon, of which we do not dream.

William James (January 11, 1842 – August 26, 1910) was a pioneering American psychologist philosopher. He wrote influential books on the young science of psychology, educational psychology, psychology of religious experience and mysticism, and the philosophy of pragmatism.

Inner Light to guide us (The Quakers)

Inner light

The concept of the Inner Light is central to many versions of Quaker (or Religious Society of Friends) theology.

It refers to God's presence within a person and to a direct and personal experience of God.

Quakers believe that God speaks to everyone, but that in order to hear his voice, one must learn to be still and actively listen for it; what Paul Lacout called a "silence which is active." They believe not only that individuals can be guided by this Inner Light, but that Friends should meet together and receive collective guidance from God by sharing the concerns and leadings that he gives to individuals. In a Friends meeting it is usually called "ministry" when a person shares aloud what the Inner Light is saying to him or her.

Apparently today many Quakers report that they believe in the inner light without believing in God.

Today

Your assignment in the coming week, on the other hand, is to joke about spiritual matters with a more generous attitude. It's prime time for you to be humorously amazed by the tricky enigmas of creation.

Samuel had a high IQ (low EQ).

o He could reason, was analytical and logical, and had a steel-trap focus on tasks.
o He learned new things quickly.
o However, he ignored how he was feeling and how others were feeling.
o If things didn't do the way he expected them to, he would lose his temper and lash out at others.
o He was unable to relate to people who weren't as smart as he was and lacked empathy.
o This limited his ability to be effective in team situations even though his IQ was very high.

Jose had a high EQ (lower IQ).
o He got along well with people, and managed his own emotions well.
o This made him highly effective in his work, even though there were others in the firm with higher IQs.
o Jose was able to consider the emotional component of interactions, using both his cognitive abilities and his understanding of emotions.
o He was able to influence and motivate people because he understood what mattered to them and was an excellent communicator.
o His authenticity and integrity made him a natural leader. He was flexible and creative when faced with a challenge, and resilient in the face of temporary defeats.
o He was well-liked and well-respected.

Aristotle Angry

Anyone can become angry – that is easy.

But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way.

ARISTOTLE…The Nicomachean Ethics