Today Tripe, tomorrow?

Today I tripped on some tripe
and now I am falling
all not round is bright
and the demons are calling
Today I tripped on some tripe

It is hard not to treat tripe as tripe,
initially found drawing
for the world as it might
be smaller and smaller, sprawling
It is hard not to treat tripe as tripe

Who am I that I would treat this tripe
What am I to be appalling
What do I have to gripe
about, who am I blaming
Only me, only me, only me, tripe

Blue Eyes Brown Eyes. what does this mean for us?

January 15, 1929 Martin Luther King was born, he died April 4, 1968.

When, on April 5 1968, A person in Jane Elliotts class at junior school wanted to know why he was killed. She wanted her class to understand why Martin Luther King was killed .... the strangest things began....

A simple separation of the class by eye colour and in 15 minutes personalities changed, at lunch a fight broke out between a blued and browned eyed kid. The blued kids came up with ways to punich the browned eyed. The performance starts to change. Kids are now not performing as well or are performing better depending on what we are told them about what it means to be brown or blue eyed.

The keaness to pick on specific examples and translate the whole group. Speed with which perpsectives are changes. The use of the arguement to suggest that that is meaning full. ie blue eyed people that argue are proving that blue eyed people are argumentative and uncooporative.

And then there are the adults reactions.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/divided/

• Who are we?
• How much do we really know?
• What do we think?
• Do we need a guide to help us how are feeling and fears into perspective and check (an inner light perhaps if not a God)?
• This is so much more than just descrimination, it is about how we define ourselves and how we interact with people and how are brains actually work.
• Is this how terrorists happen?
  
• Do we really need to be protected from our selved like this?
• Who is in control really?
• What is freedom if this is possible?
• Leadership is everything every day perhaps
  

EQ - Top 10 Suggestions

Top Ten Suggestions

First seek to understand, then to be understood.

1. Label your feelings, rather than labeling people or situations.	"I feel impatient." vs "This is ridiculous." "I feel hurt and bitter". vs. "You are an insensitive jerk." "I feel afraid." vs. "You are driving like a idiot."
2. Distinguish between thoughts and feelings.	Thoughts: I feel like...& I feel as if.... & I feel that Feelings: I feel: (feeling word)
3. Take more responsibility for your feelings.	"I feel jealous." vs. "You are making me jealous."
4. Use your feelings to help them make decisions.	"How will I feel if I do this?" "How will I feel if I don't"
5. Show respect for other people's feelings.	Ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How will you feel if I don't."
6. Feel energized, not angry.	Use what others call "anger" to help feel energized to take productive action.
7. Validate other people's feelings.	Show empathy, understanding, and acceptance of other people's feelings.
8. Practice getting a positive value from their your emotions.	Ask yourself: "How do I feel?" and "What would help me feel better?" Ask others "How do you feel?" and "What would help you feel better?"
9. Don't advise, command, control, criticize, judge or lecture to others.	Instead, try to just listen with empathy and non-judgmentally.
10. Avoid people who invalidate you.	While this is not always possible, at least try to spend less time with them, or give them psychological power over you.

William James

William James said: I have no doubt whatever that most people live, whether physically, intellectually, or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness... much like a man who, out of his whole body organism, should get into the habit of using and moving only his little finger... We all have reservoirs of life to draw upon, of which we do not dream.

William James (January 11, 1842 – August 26, 1910) was a pioneering American psychologist philosopher. He wrote influential books on the young science of psychology, educational psychology, psychology of religious experience and mysticism, and the philosophy of pragmatism.

Inner Light to guide us (The Quakers)

Inner light

The concept of the Inner Light is central to many versions of Quaker (or Religious Society of Friends) theology.

It refers to God's presence within a person and to a direct and personal experience of God.

Quakers believe that God speaks to everyone, but that in order to hear his voice, one must learn to be still and actively listen for it; what Paul Lacout called a "silence which is active." They believe not only that individuals can be guided by this Inner Light, but that Friends should meet together and receive collective guidance from God by sharing the concerns and leadings that he gives to individuals. In a Friends meeting it is usually called "ministry" when a person shares aloud what the Inner Light is saying to him or her.

Apparently today many Quakers report that they believe in the inner light without believing in God.

Today

Your assignment in the coming week, on the other hand, is to joke about spiritual matters with a more generous attitude. It's prime time for you to be humorously amazed by the tricky enigmas of creation.

Samuel had a high IQ (low EQ).

o He could reason, was analytical and logical, and had a steel-trap focus on tasks.
o He learned new things quickly.
o However, he ignored how he was feeling and how others were feeling.
o If things didn't do the way he expected them to, he would lose his temper and lash out at others.
o He was unable to relate to people who weren't as smart as he was and lacked empathy.
o This limited his ability to be effective in team situations even though his IQ was very high.

Jose had a high EQ (lower IQ).
o He got along well with people, and managed his own emotions well.
o This made him highly effective in his work, even though there were others in the firm with higher IQs.
o Jose was able to consider the emotional component of interactions, using both his cognitive abilities and his understanding of emotions.
o He was able to influence and motivate people because he understood what mattered to them and was an excellent communicator.
o His authenticity and integrity made him a natural leader. He was flexible and creative when faced with a challenge, and resilient in the face of temporary defeats.
o He was well-liked and well-respected.

Aristotle Angry

Anyone can become angry – that is easy.

But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way.

ARISTOTLE…The Nicomachean Ethics

EQ vs IQ

IQ gets you through school vs EQ gets you through life. Your EQ has more to do with your success and happiness in life than your IQ and it can be learned.

Focus on authenticity, integrity, flexiblity and creativity when faced with a challenge, and resilient in the face of temporary defeats.

In Dreams the Animal rule

Animals are feelings in a dream - picture of person walking alone surounded by animals. Animals tell the story of the person.

What are the animals doing?
What kind of animals are they?
Do they interact with each other?

Love and Friendship

When we are loved -- loved in spite of ourselves or better loved for ourselves, idiosyncrasies and all.